Updated: Nov 20, 2018
‘’It’s not about the size you wear but the way you wear
We currently live in a society of Instragam likes and comparing ourselves to others, but the main thing we need to ask ourselves is ‘’ A million likes will never be enough if you don’t like yourself’’ and surrounding ourselves with this everyday can be so damaging for our soul but to our own self confidence & body image too.
I was one of those girls who loathed looking at themselves in the mirror in their underwear or the thought of getting into a bikini gave me serious anxiety. When I was in my teens all I remember is being aged 16 and being 16 stone and hating myself. At the time there wasn’t a lot of high street shop that stocked fashionable clothing in larger sizes so this made me feel really down and then with heading out with my friends the weekend and never getting looks of the lads it really started to get to me. So one day I decided enough was enough and joined a local slimming club and set a goal for myself.
With people noticing my weight loss and commenting on it, it really started to make me feel good about myself and then with boys showing interest (as this would have been new to me) it made my confidence had grown. But what I achieved from losing weight was a goal and sense of accomplishment which I always wanted in life and that was so rewarding to me. Not only did I lose 4 stone, I got this new lease of life, learnt to put myself first and gained self – confidence, it was like the ‘REAL ME’ had finally come out as she had been hiding in for so long.
Now fifteen years on I look back on how far I have come and how much I have grown to love myself but this all came with years of working on myself and learning to give up the fight with the scales ( as I was addicted to seeing results) and go by how you look and feel. With going to the gym regularly, learning to eat right and with the fashion world injecting model versatility into it and embracing women for all different shapes this gave me more confidence to own my body and work with what I have got not what I haven’t.
There are two women who have encouraged me to embrace this, one of these ladies being Ashley Graham, who was the first plus size women to grace the cover of USA’s Sports Illustrated magazine and rock the run way and still, is doing so at this month’s AW18 Fashion Weeks. Ashley is a modern day siren for us curvy women and she oozes sex appeal.
Then onto Iskra Lawrence whom I have followed for some years now and not only does she embrace her beauty, she does not allow any of her Instagram photos to be retouched in any way to enhance her image. She has also called out personal body shaming via her Instagram.
And what do these two amazing ladies both have in common……Body Confidence. They both have sex appeal, femininity and embrace empowerment at its finest and doing so, with owning every inch of their skin. Each one of these ladies have represented something for women and pushed through boundaries that we haven’t seen before until now. These two ladies have given me a new lease of life into owning my body and accepting it for what it is and not what it should be.
Here are some five top tips which I go by and have helped me as we all go through ‘’those bad days’’ it is just about getting yourself back up on the horse and striving to the next hurdle about to come at you whether it is trying that bikini on for the first time or going to the gym or wearing that crop top you have never worn before….. OWN IT GIRL!
And finally at the end of the day ladies it all starts with embracing and loving our bodies as the best project you will ever work on is YOURSELF!
Lots of Love