Positive Vibes Only!
I get asked a lot about how I stay so positive and thought I would finally jot it all down and make one big blog post about it. I know I have been out of action as I nearly feel do people read blog posts anymore or are we just scrollers on Instagram stories ? For me I know I love a good article in a magazine or online to read as it is just a bit more interesting and absorbing rather than just scroll, scroll and tap , tap, tap... if you get me?
So for me where it all began and how I evolved into preaching those ''Positive vibes'' was I'd say about 9 years ago when I was in a low place after a bad break up. I decided I wanted to work on me & being a better me, as I was the only person in charge of my life.
The first thing I did was read ''The Secret'' which a friend recommended to me and by god did I feel that I needed a revelation.
Reading this made me realise that the power is actually in your hands and what you put out the universe is what you attract LITERALLY! I started to practise this and I honestly feel my life has turned itself around from using this method. For instance when I started to feel good about myself and put time into myself and was after reading the book I was in the gym I starting feeling good about myself which started to shine from the outside, I got promoted in my job and then I put out to the universe I just wanted to meet a really nice guy and then I met Ian.... 8 years on we are still together and honestly feel he is my soul mate as corny as it sounds! This book is honestly like my bible along with all the other books Rhonda Byrne has brought out.
From this I felt I had a bit of a spiritual awakening as you would say and totally engrossed in this other realm of how you are in charge of your life and that anything is achievable and not always to dwell on the negatives but to change them into positives and always learn those mistakes.
After implementing these ways and a few years on I felt like I wanted more insight and closure and was at another cross roads in my life. I was only back from Australia after living there for 2 years but I felt there was something else I needed to confront. One of my work colleagues referred me to a Judith McAdam who was a Kinesiologist, Life Coach and Reiki practitioner and author of ''The Source''. (Kinesiology as used in the complementary health is natural medicine field defined primarily using muscle testing to identify imbalances in the body's structural chemical, emotional and other energies and what you need to do to heal this) I have been seeing Judith for nearly four years now and she has helped me over come a lot of emotional blockages in my life and encouraged me into taking life head on and how to wrk on my own persona and what I can get out of life. For instance how to react in certain situations I've had where If someone let's say cancelled on my for dinner and I was really looking forward to it I would be upset but now I am like this is ok , this happened for something else to happen if you get me? You can't dwell to much on the bad or your head would go around in circles and the anxiety of it all would get you so down, but you have a choice how to feel and what to give your energy too.
I have learnt over the years being such a energetic person and I love to give back and help people, sometimes you have to preserve your energy. For instance I would hate letting people down or saying no but sometimes I just wouldn't want to go out or do what ever it was to make that person happy and it would effect me more so I started learning to say ''NO'' and that is ok to say this. It is not about feeling guilty, or letting someone down or just making you happy it is about keeping your energy you and when you truly want to give it and appreciate doing it. Years ago before I got into this I was always on the go and saying YES but over the years I've slowly came into really appreciate my time and just being content with it (Sure Ian only joked last night saying ''I think you like your own time more than mine'' haha) So every week I set my own time to the side whether it is going to the gym or reading a book on my own or having a walk or coffee on my own it definitely works wonders for your mind and you!
Other things to keep my positivity up has to be listening to Oprah's Super Soul Podcasts on Spotify. I think everyone knows on Instagram I am obsessed as there is nothing more I love to do on the way to work than sit there and listen to Oprah to set you up for the day. She is just such an influential inspiring person that exceeds to give back and gets the upmost enjoyment doing this.
I also love to read books that embrace positivity or some sort of spirituality or mindfulness in them, so here is some of my favourites.
The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Is a book that you can live by day to day making you embrace the present moment and not thinking too much into the past or future. We all now we can get anxiety around these thoughts but this will teach you how to just be in the now!
7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra
This book is all about embracing spirituality, positive thinking and the law of attraction. It taps into letting go of your ego, your current situation and then looking into what you truly desire when finding your life's purpose.
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
This is probably one of the most interesting and inspiring books that I have read in the last few years. My sister Ashley gave this a lend to me as she would be into the same books as myself and she raved about it. There are two perspectives that you can relate to from this book. One being quite mystical and a story about a nomad or else understanding the book with a sense of hidden meanings and how to overcome obstacles in life.
The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck by Sarah Knight
After seeing this book and hearing lots of people reading it, I knew it was right up my street and sure look at the title. It basically is about learning not to sweat the small stuff and not care so much. If you feel you are taking on peoples problems and need a kick up the bum to start saying ''NO'', this is the one for you!
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Is a life-changing book, whose ideas come from the ancient Toltec wisdom of the native people of Southern Mexico. The Toltec were known ‘people of knowledge’, and Ruiz’s family was firmly emboldened with this knowledge. The simple ideas of The Four Agreements provide a guide-map for living a positive life ‘The Four Agreements’, and what they mean.
1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Don’t take anything personally
3. Don’t make assumptions
4. Always do your best
Here is some other books that are currently on my to read list:
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle ( which I have recently bought to listen/read in conjunction with Oprah's 10 week podcast with Eckhart. Every week she talks about one chapter.
The Power of Intention by Dwyane Dyer
Feel the Fear by Susan Jeffers
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Peale
The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield
So I think I have covered it in a nut shell with an insight into the little positive world of me.
I know it is hard to always stay positive and life does get you down which is ok too . But when you stop to think that ''All things do happen for a reason'' and we are here to learn from our mistakes.
Just think to yourself '' the bad sometimes has to happen in order for you to see the good''. Now preach them Positive Vibes !!
Lot of love